If the two of you are exactly alike, one of you is unnecessary.
I couldn’t have said it better myself. I can’t speak for anyone else, but in my case, I would drown with another person just like me. Seriously. I have a hard time making decisions. I am obsessed with being on time. I have an OCD-like tendency towards order in some areas, yet am completely messy in other areas. I never know where my keys are. I’m an eternal optimist. I’d rather be broke than owe someone (and pay for that stance all the time). I either take things too seriously or not seriously enough, depending on the topic. I always want a second opinion. So if I were to date myself, we’d never go anywhere because we couldn’t make up our minds, we’d always be broke but debt-free, we’d get up in arms over nothing and let important things go to ruin while we’re hanging out in the clouds together. Not a good picture.
Then there’s MensHealth. Men’s health is a realist. He likes to pay things on time, but he keeps money for himself and is never as broke as I am. He is extremely decisive. He almost always knows where everything is. As far as I can tell, he has no OCD-like symptoms of any kind and is messy in the areas I am neat. He values being on time, but also takes into account other people aren’t always on time. In many ways he is my opposite, and that’s a good thing.
We’ve brought out some good things in one another in the three years we’ve been a couple. My faith in people and my faith things will get better have brought about a little optimism in him; he’s taught me not to be so obsessed with controlling things.
We also share many things in common: a love of music, a sense of humor, morals and values, a strong work ethic. Not only do we balance each other in some areas, we enrich each other’s passion for our shared interests. Just having him to share those things with him.
As we close in on our third anniversary on December 5th, I thought this quote was very fitting as a point of meditation. Sometimes he irks me because he isn’t just like me, but he benefits me more because he isn’t just like me than if I had my way.
What do you think about the quote? How alike are you and your mate? Have you ever dated someone who was just like you?
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